Every year, about this time, I begin to hear stories about peoples’ miserable experiences with New Years Resolutions. I’ve heard psychologists discourage them and/or repackage them into less setting goals with shorter end-zones. Some people do them out of tradition, others find comfort in finding opportunity to “turn the page” so to speak.
In 2007, I was pleased to have accomplished all of my goals. 2008, however, I did all of the experiential activities I’d planned, I didn’t stay with the habitual or disciplinary functions I’d hoped to, such as reading on purpose, every day and losing 10 pounds (now 25!).
This year, as I began to think about my resolutions, I was taken back to the different roles I have. In my case I am:
- A Husband
- A Father
- A Business Owner
- A Spirit-led person
- A Person – as in recognizing that I must take responsibility for my own personal growth and development.
The next thing I had to consider was goal-setting. I realized that if there is a goal, there is probably some end point – a vision, and some steps required to achieve that vision – a strategy. So, in each of those roles, I decided that my resolutions would actually be visions for each of the roles:
- A Husband – Make my wife feel unconditionally loved and appreciated
- A Father – Raise my children without alienating them. Make them feel loved.
- A Business Owner – Increase marketing efforts, further establish my expertise, reduce number of hours worked per week.
- A Spirit-led person – Have greater understanding of spirituality, find transparency between all roles
- A Person – Have a greater sense of being, be proactive with my health and interests.
Keep in mind – these are vision statements – they don’t need to be specific. They do, however, need to be authentically yours – interests you truly have. They also need to involve all of the roles in your life, to provide a sense of balance across all roles.
From here, I will set specific goals for each role:
- A Husband – Have early morning coffee and conversation at least twice a week.
- A Father – Rotate taking one of the children to Saturday morning breakfast every week.
…and so on and so forth. In terms of how many goals to make, my perspective is that I have to prioritize responsibility with my goals. Each goal will have a specific amount of time I must commit to achieve it, over a specific amount of time. To create a goal and just say, “I’ll make time for it” isn’t a goal at all – it’s an idea.
Here’s an example of how I prioritize my roles:
- I need to bring in a certain amount of money each month in order to maintain my household. While this doesn’t have to be my business, per se, it is what I strive to do through my business. Notice – I don’t ignore the other roles as I prioritize; this is not a segmentation practice.
- Second might be my personal goals – if I can be complete as a person, I can serve my other roles, better.
- Third might be my role as a Father
- Fourth as a Husband
- Fifth will be elements of personal and spirit-led person.
Therefore, the best route for me to take in order to address these roles and goals is to commit a certain amount of time to these each week or each month. For example, I will do one public engagement per month. To pull this off will require about 16 hours of preparation, which I will do during working hours. I will commit 4 hours per week for four weeks to develop, produce and deliver each event. These will go into my calendar.
Notice that my goals are specific, they will stretch me, they have specific time frames, and there is a specific end in mind. As I mentioned, they are not conclusive. They will, however, help define the framework for the next year.
I wish you the best of luck in planning resolutions for the upcoming year.
At Aepiphanni Business Solutions, we are a Small Business Consulting Firm dedicated to serving the needs of small business owners. We specialize in helping you develop strategies for your organization, and are committed to your success. If you have further questions about creating your strategy or developing your vision, please give me, Rick Meekins, a call at 678-265-3908, or email us at [email protected].